AITA for telling my sister I was infertile just to get her to stop asking me to be her surrogate?
Three years ago, the original poster (OP), who was 26 and married, had a sister named Anna (29 at the time) who was struggling with infertility.
Anna repeatedly asked the OP to be her surrogate, despite the OP clearly declining the request multiple times. The OP explained discomfort with pregnancy and surrogacy, but Anna persisted, using emotional pressure.
Feeling trapped and humiliated when Anna brought it up publicly, the OP told Anna a lie: that the OP was infertile. This lie caused a rift, leading to Anna eventually divorcing her husband over the infertility issue.
Now that the OP is pr****nt, Anna is extremely angry, accusing the OP of lying and ruining her marriage, leaving the OP feeling guilty and uncertain about their actions.
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The central conflict involves the OP's attempt to enforce personal boundaries against persistent family pressure, which they achieved by telling a significant lie that ultimately had severe, unforeseen consequences for the sister's life and marriage.
The debate centers on whether the extreme measure of fabricating infertility was justified to stop repeated boundary v***ations, or if the resulting damage to the sister's life outweighs the need for personal autonomy in that specific situation?
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