AITAH for wanting a divorce my husband doesn’t want and risking no relationship with his child?
The Original Poster (OP), a 30-year-old woman, is married to her 33-year-old husband, who is in the military. They have been married for 11 years and have moved frequently due to his service.
Throughout most of their marriage, the OP has handled nearly all household ch**es, including cooking, cleaning, laundry, and grocery shopping, even while maintaining a job.
After the birth of their 13-month-old child, the OP stayed home, taking on all childcare and household duties.
When she recently asked her husband for help because she felt burned out, he initially resisted, even suggesting he would resort to eating off paper plates to avoid doing his dishes.
After she insisted, he reluctantly agreed to help, but his participation was immediately met with resentment and sarcastic comments, making the OP feel she is being punished for requesting support.
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The OP is currently in a difficult position, feeling overwhelmed by the imbalance of labor in her marriage and deeply hurt by her husband’s punitive response to her request for help.
Her core conflict lies between the desire for a partnership where domestic labor is shared and the fear of the consequences of divorce, especially her husband’s threat to completely withdraw from their child's life.
The central question for debate is whether the OP is justified in considering divorce given the emotional strain and lack of partnership, even if it means risking her husband’s involvement with their child.
Should she prioritize her well-being in the marriage, or is the potential abandonment of their child by the father too high a price to pay?
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NTA.