My gf (19f) hit me after I (21m) asked if the girl in the photo was her. What should I do?
The original poster (OP) describes a situation where a seemingly pleasant evening with his girlfriend took an abrupt turn.
After making dinner and watching a show together, the girlfriend showed him a photo on her phone of a young girl wearing a facemask and asked for his opinion.
When the OP guessed the girl in the photo might be his girlfriend's younger self, she became extremely angry, s**pped him on the back, and claimed the girl was the "ugliest, most deformed and horrible" person.
Although she apologized for the physical contact, the OP reacted by becoming distant, which led to further distress for the girlfriend, leaving him confused about how to handle the situation without understanding his perceived error.
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The core conflict involves the OP feeling obligated to manage his girlfriend's extreme emotional reactions, including physical aggression, while suppressing his own feelings of confusion and being wronged.
His girlfriend places the burden of emotional labor entirely on him, demanding understanding for her distress while explicitly forbidding him from voicing his own concerns or confusion.
The central question for debate is whether the OP should continue to prioritize managing his partner's emotional state and adhering to her demands for compliance, especially when physical aggression was involved, or if he must firmly re-es**blish mutual boundaries for communication, even if it risks upsetting her further.
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