AITA for cancelling my wedding because my fiancé made a major life decision without telling me?
The user, a 28-year-old woman, recounts a situation with her 32-year-old fiancé whom she has been with for six years.
They had previously discussed the possibility of moving to a new city together someday, agreeing to decide as a couple when the moment was right.
However, the user recently discovered through a mutual friend that her fiancé had accepted a job in another state and had already signed a lease for an apartment, all without discussing it with her.
When confronted, the fiancé dismissed her feelings, claiming he thought she would accept it after the wedding, leading the user to halt wedding plans and question the foundation of their trust and future partnership.
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The user currently feels betrayed and deeply concerned that her fiancé made a major, life-altering decision without any consultation, viewing this as a fundamental breach of trust in their partnership.
She is struggling between validating her strong reaction to this unilateral action and worrying that she might be overreacting to what her fiancé terms "one little thing." The core issue now rests on whether canceling the wedding was a necessary and justified response to this evidence of unilateral decision-making, or if the relationship can and should move forward by overlooking this significant lapse in shared planning.
Is the user justified in pausing the wedding over this perceived betrayal, or is she being unreasonable by escalating the situation?
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