AITAH for telling my wife she owes me an apology for these last seven years of marriage?
The relationship between the 32-year-old husband (OP) and his 32-year-old wife began in high school, leading to marriage seven years ago.
The wife has a long history of being disorganized, frequently misplacing items, leaving tasks unfinished, and struggling with chronic lateness and clutter.
Although the OP loved her and overlooked these traits before marriage, the issues reportedly worsened afterward, resulting in the accumulation of clutter in two bedrooms and items spilling into the OP's office space.
After years of the OP suggesting she seek an ADHD diagnosis, the wife recently received one after a friend suggested it during a girls' night out, leading the OP to demand an apology for the time lost addressing the issue, which resulted in a major argument.
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The Original Poster is currently grappling with whether his demand for an apology was justified, feeling conflicted after reacting strongly to his wife's recent ADHD diagnosis—a condition he had been encouraging her to address for years.
The central conflict lies between the OP's feelings of vindication and the stress he endured versus the wife's initial defensiveness and current refusal to communicate following the diagnosis.
Is the OP's feeling that he is owed an apology for years of unaddressed issues valid, or did his timing and manner of delivering this message cause unnecessary harm to a newly diagnosed partner?
Readers must weigh the reality of the OP's lived experience against the delicate situation of a recent medical discovery.
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