AITA for telling my husband his request for a "dad-cation" after the baby is born is completely selfish? 🤰😡👶✈️
The user, a 21-year-old woman who is seven months pr****nt, describes a conflict that arose with her 32-year-old husband regarding post-birth plans.
She notes that her husband has been generally supportive throughout the pregnancy, attending appointments and helping with household ch**es, which she appreciates.
However, the husband recently proposed the idea of taking a "dad-cation," a short vacation with his friends immediately following the baby's arrival, claiming he needs to unwind.
The user strongly objected, pointing out that she will be physically recovering from childbirth, b***stfeeding, and handling the immediate care.
When she called the idea selfish, the husband became defensive, stating he deserves a break too because of his support during the pregnancy, leaving the user questioning if she is overreacting.
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The original poster (OP) is struggling between acknowledging her husband's past support during her pregnancy and feeling that his request for an immediate post-birth vacation is inappropriate and selfish given her physical recovery and the demands of a newborn.
The central conflict revolves around differing expectations regarding immediate parental responsibility versus personal decompression time.
Is the OP correct in refusing the "dad-cation" outright due to the critical nature of the newborn phase, or is the husband justified in feeling he deserves a break shortly after the birth, even if the timing is difficult?
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