I told my daughters that I was moving on with the separation anyway
The original poster (OP) recently discovered a devastating secret: her husband had been unfaithful to her on two separate occasions while she was pr****nt.
Prior to this discovery three months ago, the OP believed they had a very happy marriage, and she still acknowledges that her husband is a good father to their two daughters, who are currently 14 and 16 years old.
The immediate aftermath has centered on the daughters, who are strongly against the idea of their parents divorcing. They have threatened to cease all contact with the OP if she proceeds with ending the marriage, citing their desire to avoid upheaval.
The OP is now struggling deeply, unable to look at her husband, and finding that counseling is ineffective against the family's united opposition.
Her central dilemma is whether to prioritize her own emotional well-being and leave the marriage or remain for the sake of her daughters' continued relationship with her.
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The OP is in a position of deep emotional distress, torn between the betrayal she experienced and the severe ultimatum issued by her daughters.
While she understands their wish for s**bility and their fear of change, her ability to continue the marriage has completely broken down, rendering therapy unsuccessful.
The core question facing the reader is how to balance parental obligations and the desire for family unity against the fundamental need for personal integrity and freedom from a toxic situation.
Should the OP sacrifice her future happiness to maintain a relationship with her children, or pursue separation despite the certainty of losing contact with them for the foreseeable future?
Commenters Came in Hot with Their Takes:
The thread exploded with reactions. Whether agreeing or disagreeing, everyone had something to say — and they said it loud.