AITAH for refusing to babysit my husbands kids so he can have some time off
The user, a 29-year-old woman, is married to a 34-year-old man who has three sons (ages 11, 7, and 6) from a previous relationship.
When they first met, the husband made it clear he was seeking a wife for himself, not a replacement mother for his children, a boundary the user accepted as she never wanted children of her own.
The custody arrangement recently changed from weekend visits to a 50/50 split, which coincided with the husband losing his job and getting a lower-paying one, making professional childcare too expensive.
When the husband needed childcare for an entire weekend to attend a friend's bachelor party, he asked his wife last minute, a*suming she would agree, leading to a confrontation when she refused, questioning if she was wrong for upholding the original agreement.
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The original poster finds herself in a conflict where her husband is pressuring her to take on significant parental responsibility, despite a prior agreement that she would not be expected to babysit.
While she likes the children and supports her husband, she feels he is attempting to shift his paternal duties onto her, especially for a non-emergency social event.
The central question is whether the wife was wrong to refuse watching the three difficult children for a full weekend when the request was made last minute, based on the pre-marital agreement, or if the change in financial circumstances and increased custody schedule warrants a renegotiation of her involvement as the husband's responsibility.
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