Girlfriend Wants Me to Pay Double Rent to Live With Her and I Am Done
The original poster (OP) and his girlfriend have been in a relationship for some time and discussed moving in together.
The girlfriend owns a house she is currently paying a mortgage on, and although they plan to marry eventually, she is hesitant to add OP to the mortgage.
OP agreed to this arrangement, but a conflict arose when they discussed OP's financial contribution to the household expenses.
The girlfriend proposed a monthly payment for OP that was double what he currently pays for his own separate rental apartment, arguing it reflected the market rate for her house.
OP felt this demand was excessive, leading to an impa*se where the girlfriend accused him of making excuses for not 'pulling his weight.' The central dilemma for OP is how to proceed with moving in together without feeling financially exploited or like a 'kept man.'
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The conflict centers on the disparity between the OP's desire to build a shared life and his girlfriend's requirement for financial parity based on her existing a*set ownership.
OP is struggling to accept a living arrangement where his housing contribution significantly exceeds his current expenses and feels disproportionate to the living situation they would share.
The core question remains whether the couple can find a mutually acceptable financial arrangement that respects the girlfriend's property rights while also validating the OP's sense of fairness and autonomy in the partnership.
Should OP agree to the high rent to secure cohabitation, or is this payment a fundamental incompatibility regarding shared financial responsibility?
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