AITAH for telling my husband I won’t cook dinner every night because I also work full-time?
A 30-year-old woman, the Original Poster (OP), has been married to her 32-year-old husband, Tom, for four years.
Both individuals hold full-time employment, but a clear division of household labor has formed where the OP is solely responsible for preparing dinner every night.
When the OP recently stated she would no longer cook every night and proposed sharing the cooking duties, Tom reacted negatively, claiming the division was fine because the OP was better at it and he was too tired.
This led to frustration, with the OP feeling the arrangement was unfair given both work full-time. The central question is whether the OP is wrong for refusing to continue handling all the evening meal preparation.
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The OP is facing a conflict where her need for equitable distribution of household labor clashes with her husband's es**blished comfort and resistance to change, which he minimizes as a small issue.
Tom relies on the precedent set by the OP's previous willingness to cook, leading to resentment about the imbalance of domestic responsibility.
Should the OP hold firm on her boundary regarding shared cooking duties, or is her expectation unreasonable given her husband's claims of work fatigue and the fact that she previously enjoyed cooking? Readers must decide where the fairness lies in this domestic arrangement.
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