AITA for asking my roommates wife to wear bottoms around the house
The original poster (OP) and their significant other (SO) have allowed the OP's brother-in-law (BIL) to stay at their home while he and his wife try to sell their house.
This arrangement has been going on for six months, during which the BIL has been paying a small amount for room and board. The main issue involves the BIL's wife (Tina), who has been staying at the home for half of every month as a guest.
Tina has a history of causing hygienic issues, specifically by having 'accidents' on decorative pillows.
After witnessing her soil a pillow with bodily fluids again and then intentionally sit on the furniture partially bare-bottomed while wearing a soiled nightgown, the OP reached a breaking point regarding sanitation and respect for their property.
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The original poster is dealing with a severe breach of household boundaries related to hygiene and property damage caused by a long-term guest.
The OP feels disgusted and disrespected by the guest's behavior, especially after attempting to address the issue indirectly with the BIL, leading to the current dilemma of how to enforce basic cleanliness standards.
The central conflict is whether the OP is justified in taking drastic, potentially embarra*sing measures to stop the unsanitary conduct, or if direct confrontation about the behavior itself is the only appropriate next step.
Is the OP wrong for considering providing incontinence supplies, or is the guest's behavior so unacceptable that direct intervention is necessary?
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