AITAH for telling my wife to stay in our own home instead of sleeping at her sister’s all the Time?
The user describes feeling exhausted after work, only to return to a house that is quiet, dark, and empty every night.
His wife is consistently absent, staying at her sister's house for extended periods, sometimes for two or three nights in a row, without leaving a note.
When confronted, the wife cited her closeness with her sister and stated that the user knew about their bond before marriage. The wife's sister subsequently messaged the user, accusing him of being controlling and insecure.
The user is now questioning if his basic desire for a partner to share his home with is selfish, wondering if he is in the wrong for asking her to stay home more often.
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The Original Poster (OP) is in a difficult emotional state, feeling deeply lonely and as if he is living alone despite being married.
The central conflict is his fundamental need for shared domestic life and companionship against his wife's apparent preference for spending the majority of her time at her sister's residence.
The core debate rests on balancing marital expectations of cohabitation against the es**blished closeness between the wife and her sister.
Is the OP being controlling by asking his wife to prioritize their shared home, or is the wife abandoning the basic duties and presence expected in a marriage by effectively living elsewhere?
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