AITA for thinking it's crazy for my boyfriend to say that he would break up with me if I gave another person CPR to save their life (mouth to mouth)? He said it's just a boundary of his and it would be fine for him to give CPR as he plans to be a doctor (but I can't).
The narrator and her boyfriend had been together for nearly two years, living together and frequently discussing marriage, with the boyfriend often calling the narrator his soulmate.
However, their relationship recently experienced a major issue that led to a breakup two weeks prior.
Following the breakup, the boyfriend expressed deep remorse, crying and insisting they were soulmates, which convinced the narrator to reconsider the relationship.
During this sensitive 'probation period,' he presented an extreme condition: he would end things if she ever performed mouth-to-mouth CPR, even if it meant saving a life when no one else was available, claiming this was a non-negotiable boundary for him.
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The narrator is currently experiencing significant confusion and distress, feeling that her boyfriend's demand—that she must choose between him and saving a life via CPR—is absurd and controlling.
This ultimatum is set against a backdrop of other concerning behaviors, such as his complete lack of recognition on Valentine's Day, leading her to question the validity of their relationship foundation and whether she is being manipulated.
The central conflict lies between the narrator's expectation of a supportive partner and the boyfriend's imposition of rigid, life-threatening boundaries while simultaneously demanding commitment as a 'soulmate.' The question for debate is whether a partner’s demand that one must pa*sively allow a stranger to d*e rather than perform a life-saving act const*tutes a reasonable boundary in a serious relationship, especially when weighed against other signs of emotional neglect.
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