AITA for s**pping my ex's wife?
The user, a 32-year-old woman, shares a complicated family dynamic involving her 16-year-old daughter, whom she shares with her 32-year-old ex-partner. Both parents have since remarried.
The daughter alternates custody weekly between the user's home and her father's home, where she lives with her father, his wife, and three younger siblings.
The daughter frequently reports that her stepmother is overly strict, forcing her to handle most of the household ch**es and childcare duties, sometimes resulting in missing school.
The situation escalated when the daughter was yelled at for forgetting the dishes while stud**ng, and when she tried to explain, her father joined in the yelling.
The final incident occurred when the stepmother s**pped the daughter, leading the user to confront the stepmother, which resulted in the user also s**pping the stepmother.
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The original poster (OP) is currently conflicted, feeling regretful for escalating the confrontation by s**pping her ex's wife, yet remaining furious about the physical discipline inflicted upon her daughter.
While the OP has apologized to her ex for the scene, the stepmother refuses to apologize to the daughter, creating a stalemate where the OP feels obligated to apologize further but unwilling to do so if the stepmother does not acknowledge her own wrongdoing.
The central dilemma is how to balance maintaining a civil relationship with the ex-partner against the need to protect the daughter from perceived mistreatment by the stepmother.
Should the OP proceed with an apology to the stepmother despite the lack of reciprocation, or should she prioritize standing firm on the principle that physical discipline by a non-parent is unacceptable, even if it damages the co-parenting relationship?
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