WIBTA if I refuse? BIL request that I temporarily move out of my home
The husband and wife have been together since they were teenagers, having married after the wife became pr****nt at a young age.
The husband admits he was a very difficult person before this time, describing himself as verbally abusive and involved in law trouble.
His wife stood by him through these difficult years, even against her family's wishes, leading them to become estranged.
Following the birth of their first child, the husband completely changed his life, focusing on education, career success, and ensuring his wife never had to work. They have since had another child and recently renewed their vows.
Although the wife has reconciled with her family, they still refuse to acknowledge the husband. The couple recently bought the wife's childhood home, where they currently live peacefully.
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The husband is facing a complex request from his in-laws: they want him to temporarily move out of the house he shares with his wife so that his mother-in-law and her live-in sister can move in without his presence.
He feels a pull between seeing the demand as ridiculous, given his decades of positive change and commitment to his wife, and feeling a sense of obligation or debt to his wife's family for their past suffering.
The core conflict centers on whether past negative actions, even from decades ago, perpetually disqualify the husband from sharing a home with his wife's family, or if his substantial, proven life changes and current efforts to support them should outweigh historical resentment.
Should the husband agree to leave his primary residence temporarily to allow his in-laws peace during their mother's final years?
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