AITAH for leaving my wife without a discussion after I found out she cheated?
The original poster (OP), who works a fly-in/fly-out schedule, spending eight weeks abroad followed by four weeks at home, married his partner, Louise, last summer.
Due to the nature of his work, the OP sold his house and simplified his life to only own items he could easily transport, relying on his parents’ home for storage during his time off. After three years together, the OP discovered his wife was cheating in September.
Upon returning from work, he immediately arranged for a hotel, then traveled to Vietnam, blocking her on all communication and hiring a lawyer to start divorce proceedings.
Now, friends are suggesting the OP is being unfair because he left his wife financially vulnerable, as their shared apartment and all a*sociated bills were in her name, relying on his financial support.
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The OP is facing criticism from mutual friends who believe that while his wife's in***elity justifies divorce, his sudden departure without addressing the financial arrangements is unduly harsh.
The central conflict lies between the OP’s right to separate cleanly after betrayal and his former partner’s reliance on his expected financial subsidy to maintain their shared living situation.
Considering that the OP never mixed finances and the living situation was es**blished based on his long-term income, does he have a moral or practical obligation to provide a transition period or financial support to his unfaithful spouse, or does her in***elity absolve him of all further responsibility for the immediate consequences?
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