My boyfriend keeps bragging about his size even though it hurts me every single time
The user, a 20-year-old woman (F20), began dating her boyfriend (M27) about six months ago, and they have been intimate for the last two months.
For the user, this relationship involves many "firsts," as he is only the second person she has slept with overall and the first she has slept with repeatedly.
During their first s*xual experience, the user experienced significant pain, cramping, and deep stomach pain lasting several hours. This continued in subsequent encounters, prompting a doctor's visit.
The doctor found no diagnosable issue but suggested more foreplay or noted a potential size incompatibility between the partners.
When the user shared this information, the boyfriend reacted by becoming flattered and repeatedly bragging about his size, refusing to change their intimate technique despite repeated requests because it consistently caused her pain.
This led to a major argument when the user snapped during s*x due to the pain and confronted him about his ego, making her now question if she was wrong for her reaction.
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The original poster (OP) is in a situation where her physical discomfort and pain during s*x are being dismissed or even celebrated by her boyfriend, who seems overly proud of his physical size.
The central conflict lies between the OP's need for physical consideration, safety, and pleasure, and the boyfriend's apparent need to validate his ego through bragging about the very characteristic that is causing her distress.
The core question is whether the OP was justified in reacting strongly to repeated physical pain that was being ignored or minimized by her partner's inflated ego, or if her outburst was an overreaction to a situation that should have been handled with more gentle communication.
The debate hinges on balancing the boyfriend's perceived pride against the OP's actual experience of physical harm and lack of enjoyment.
The Comments Section Came Alive:
What started as a simple post quickly turned into a wildfire of opinions, with users chiming in from all sides.