AITAH for asking my husband to pay off my debt.
The user, a 30-year-old woman, has been in a long-term relationship with her 31-year-old husband since they were teenagers, and they now share four children.
In 2021, the husband received a promotion and requested that she quit her casino job to become a stay-at-home mother (SAHM), promising he would cover all household bills.
Since quitting, her small work-from-home income was used mostly for their daughter's compet*tive cheerleading, leaving her short for personal needs and gas. After losing that side job, she accumulated $1,700 in credit card debt, which he reluctantly paid.
Now facing $2,500 in new debt accrued partly because he refused to help with the daughter's cheer commitments, she is asking him for a weekly allowance and help with the debt, leading her to question if she is wrong to ask.
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The original poster (OP) feels trapped in a financially restrictive situation where, despite managing the household and childcare full-time after being asked to leave her job, she has no personal income and is accumulating debt due to unmet needs, especially those related to the children's activities.
Her husband, who earns a high income, controls all shared savings and refuses to provide her with necessary personal funds or a*sist with the debt incurred under these circumstances.
The central question is whether the OP is ent*tled to a personal allowance and shared responsibility for the debt given her role as the primary caregiver, or if the husband's complete financial provision for household bills fulfills all his obligations.
Should the OP receive an agreed-upon personal budget, or is it reasonable for her to manage all non-bill expenses, including her children's activities, solely on credit?
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