AITAH for telling my daughter it’s none of her business who I decide to date and to mind her own business

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The original poster (OP) finalized a divorce with his ex-wife last year following her one-night stand, an event that caused him significant pain and anger.

Although the ex-wife apologized extensively and offered to comply with his requests, the OP lost all emotional connection to her, ultimately deciding against reconciliation despite briefly reconsidering.

The parents maintained an amicable divorce process for the sake of their two daughters, aged 13 and 15, though the separation significantly impacted the children.

Following the finalized divorce, the OP focused heavily on fitness and decided to engage in casual hookups, inviting partners over when the daughters were staying with their mother.

This arrangement was disrupted when the older daughter discovered these visits through a Ring app notification she had access to, leading to a confrontation where she expressed discomfort, stating the actions were disrespectful to her mother.

AITAH for telling my daughter it’s none of her business who I decide to date and to mind her own business
‘AITAH for telling my daughter it’s none of her business who I decide to date and to mind her own business’

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Support, sarcasm, and strong words — the replies covered it all. This one definitely got people talking.

The OP is currently in a position where he is a*serting his autonomy as a single parent to pursue casual dating and intimacy, feeling justified in setting boundaries regarding his personal life when his daughters are not present.

This stance directly conflicts with his older daughter's perception that his behavior dishonors her mother and v***ates an a*sumed standard of respect within the newly structured family dynamic.

The core debate lies between the OP's right to privacy and independent adult life post-divorce versus the daughter's expectations regarding parental conduct and loyalty to the family unit, even one that is legally dissolved.

Is the OP justified in removing his daughter's access to the security camera feed to protect his privacy, or did his actions cross a line regarding the sensitivity of the situation?