AITAH for telling my husband I prefer uncircumcised men (he isn't) if he's told me he prefers tall women (I'm not)?
The user and their husband were discussing circumcision when the conversation turned to why some parents choose to circumcise their sons for the benefit of future female partners.
Without much thought, the user stated that they found the idea 'insane' because they have always preferred uncut men. The user notes that their husband is circumcised, as are many men in their area, and they are happy with him as he is.
However, they maintain that having a preference is valid, pointing out that the husband also has preferences, such as preferring tall women, which the user accepts despite being short.
The user is now left wondering if they were wrong to voice this preference because the husband feels it was cruel, given that he cannot change his anatomy.
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The user is currently caught between a*serting their right to have a personal preference regarding physical attributes and acknowledging their husband's feeling that stating this preference about his permanent state was hurtful.
The central conflict lies in whether expressing a personal attraction preference is equivalent to criticizing an unchangeable aspect of their partner's body.
The core question is whether it is acceptable to voice a physical preference about a partner's body, especially one related to a past surgical decision, even if the preference is framed as non-essential, or if such a statement is inherently damaging when the partner cannot alter the feature in question?
Commenters Came in Hot with Their Takes:
Support, sarcasm, and strong words — the replies covered it all. This one definitely got people talking.