AITAH for being upset that my boyfriend threw out the food I was eating because he thought it was culturally insensitive

wallywall07 3471 comments

The user and her boyfriend decided to cook a meal together from a meal delivery service, which happened to be a recipe for loaded pork taquitos.

The boyfriend, who is Mexican, had previously expressed that he was not excited about the Tex-Mex style meal, although the user did not realize the depth of his negative feelings toward this type of cuisine.

After the user finished cooking, they began eating, and the boyfriend voiced strong distaste for the dish, linking it to the whitewashing of his culture.

The situation escalated when the boyfriend suddenly threw both his plate and the user's plate, which she was actively eating from, directly into the t**sh. The user is now doubting whether her reaction to this action was justified.

AITAH for being upset that my boyfriend threw out the food I was eating because he thought it was culturally insensitive
‘AITAH for being upset that my boyfriend threw out the food I was eating because he thought it was culturally insensitive’

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A Wave of Opinions Just Hit the Thread:

Support, sarcasm, and strong words — the replies covered it all. This one definitely got people talking.

The original poster (OP) is conflicted because while she understands and respects her boyfriend's cultural concerns regarding the food, she feels that his action of abruptly throwing away her meal while she was eating it was a severe v***ation of her personal boundaries and disregarded her feelings in the moment.

The central question revolves around balancing respect for deeply held cultural ident*ty against the right to bodily autonomy and fair communication in a relationship: Was the boyfriend justified in his extreme reaction due to cultural offense, or did his action of discarding the OP's food while she was eating demonstrate a complete lack of respect for her as an individual?