AITA for kicking my fiancée out of the house after finding out she lied about being infertile?
The user (33M) and his fiancée (30F) have been in a relationship for four years and engaged for one.
Early in their relationship, the fiancée disclosed she was infertile due to a past medical condition, which the user accepted as he did not strongly desire biological children and was open to adoption.
Last week, the user discovered a positive pregnancy test, leading to the fiancée admitting she lied about her infertility and had secretly stopped taking birth control months prior, hoping to conceive and change the user's mind about fatherhood.
Following this major deception, the user reacted with anger, declared his trust was broken, and asked her to leave their home, leaving him now questioning if his reaction was justified.
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The original poster is experiencing a profound crisis stemming from the fiancée's multi-year deception regarding her fertility and the unilateral decision to stop contraception to force a pregnancy.
His current emotional state is dominated by a feeling of being trapped by the unplanned pregnancy while grappling with the severe breach of trust caused by her manipulative actions.
The central conflict is whether the fiancée’s stated motive—wanting a deeper connection via family—can excuse the fundamental v***ation of autonomy and trust, or if the user is justified in reacting strongly to being manipulated into fatherhood against his long-held wishes. Is the poster overreacting by demanding space, or is his need to process this betrayal paramount?
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