AITAH for sterilizing myself against my partner’s wishes?
The user, a 28-year-old female, describes her long-term relationship with her 28-year-old male partner, with whom she shares two children and has been married for eight years.
She notes that reproductive responsibility, whether through birth control or actively trying to conceive, has historically rested on her.
After agreeing that their family feels complete with two children, the user proposed sterilization for either partner.
When she brought up the topic again, suggesting either a vasectomy for him or a salpingectomy for herself, the partner reacted with extreme anger, forbidding her from undergoing the procedure.
Feeling dismissed, the user scheduled a consultation for the salpingectomy without his consent, leading her to question if she is in the wrong for proceeding against his wishes.
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The original poster is currently at an impa*se, feeling pressured to manage reproductive decisions unilaterally after her partner explicitly rejected shared responsibility for permanent birth control.
Her desire for bodily autonomy and freedom from hormonal or cyclical birth control m**hods directly conflicts with her partner's stated opposition to her surgical sterilization.
The core debate centers on whether one partner has the right to veto a permanent, non-reversible medical procedure chosen by the other partner for their own body when the couple has already mutually agreed to stop having children.
Should the user proceed with the salpingectomy based on her reproductive autonomy, or does her partner's strong objection const*tute a boundary that must be respected?
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