AITAH for wanting a prenup before marriage?
The user, a 31-year-old male, recently became engaged to his 28-year-old girlfriend, and initially, they were very happy. The user owns his own business, has significant savings, and owns a house purchased several years prior. His fiancée is also doing well financially but has fewer a*sets.
The user introduced the idea of a prenuptial agreement (prenup), explaining it was to protect both parties if the marriage ended, and he a*sured her he would want the same protection if their financial situations were reversed.
His girlfriend reacted very negatively, stating the request made her feel that he was expecting a divorce and destroyed the romantic aspect of their commitment, leading to a distant mood between them, and leaving the user questioning if his approach was too cold or logical.
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The user is currently positioned between protecting his es**blished a*sets through a logical agreement and managing his fiancée's deep emotional reaction, which interprets the request as a lack of faith in their future together.
The central conflict revolves around balancing practical financial planning with the perceived emotional vulnerability required in a committed relationship.
Is the user wrong for initiating a standard legal discussion about protecting a*sets before marriage, or is the fiancée’s emotional response a sign that they cannot navigate necessary difficult conversations about long-term security?
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NAH.