AITAH for wanting to divorce my husband after I found out he t**shtalks me to his friends and says marrying me was a mistake?
The user, a 32-year-old woman (OP), describes a situation that has deeply affected her view of her five-year marriage to her 34-year-old husband.
The core conflict began when the OP discovered, by chance, messages on her husband's group chat after a recent barbecue.
The messages revealed that the husband was speaking very negatively about the OP to his friends, calling her useless, claiming he felt trapped, and stating that marrying her was a mistake, only done because she became pr****nt with their son.
When confronted, the husband dismissed the comments as typical 'guy talk' and told her she was overreacting.
This has left the OP feeling betrayed and questioning the entire foundation of her marriage, leading her to wonder if she is overreacting to this serious disclosure.
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The OP is currently in a state of intense emotional distress, feeling as if her marriage has been built on a lie after learning her husband’s private negative opinions about her and their relationship.
Her husband is pressuring her to dismiss the messages as mere venting, creating a conflict between her legitimate feelings of betrayal and his insistence that she is being overly sensitive.
The central debate is whether words spoken privately to friends, even extremely damaging ones that question the legitimacy of the relationship, const*tute grounds for ending a marriage, or if the OP should accept the husband's explanation that such venting is normal and requires her to 'let it go.' Is the OP overreacting, or is this disclosure a fundamental breach of trust?
The Internet Sounded Off — and It Got Loud:
The thread exploded with reactions. Whether agreeing or disagreeing, everyone had something to say — and they said it loud.