WIBTAH if i got a vibrator?
The original poster (OP), a 25-year-old woman, is in a relationship with her 27-year-old boyfriend who is aware that she does not experience pleasure during penetrative int*****rse (PIV).
Despite this knowledge, the couple continues to have int*****rse, during which the OP remains pa*sive while her boyfriend engages in the act.
When the OP suggested incorporating tools like a vibrator or exploring stimulation m**hods like finding her G-spot to improve her experience, the boyfriend rejected these ideas. He explicitly stated that he does not want anything other than himself to make her feel good.
This refusal, coupled with his unwillingness to provide c**toral stimulation, has frustrated the OP, leading her to consider purchasing a vibrator for solo use. Her central dilemma is whether she would be the a*shole (WIBTAH) for taking this step.
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The OP finds herself in a conflict between her need for s*xual satisfaction and her boyfriend's controlling or possessive stance regarding her pleasure.
His insistence that he must be the sole source of her s*xual gratification directly clashes with the reality that the current s*xual activities provide her with no enjoyment. This situation has caused significant internal distress for the OP.
The debate centers on whether the OP is justified in seeking independent means of s*xual pleasure when her partner refuses to modify his behavior to ensure her satisfaction.
Readers must consider if prioritizing her own physical needs by using a vibrator const*tutes a breach of the relationship's implied contract, or if his restrictive demands on her s*xuality are the primary issue.
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