AITAH for telling my wife she can leave because I’m not kicking my older kids out??
The Original Poster (OP), a 43-year-old man, is married to Amanda (42f) and they have two young daughters together. OP also has two older children, Liam (17m) and Sage (15f), from a previous, difficult divorce.
Recently, Liam and Sage moved in with OP and Amanda full-time due to issues with their stepdad at their mother's house.
Since the older children moved in, the atmosphere in the home has become tense, largely because Amanda expresses discomfort and seems critical of the new additions.
The situation exploded when OP's younger daughter, Becca (4f), who is going through a biting phase, claimed Sage hit her. Following the altercation, Amanda screamed for Liam and Sage to leave, leading them to stay overnight with friends.
Amanda is now demanding that OP send his older children back to their mother permanently, forcing OP to confront the s**bility of his marriage.
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OP is currently in a highly conflicted emotional state, torn between protecting the children he has an obligation to house and supporting his wife, who is expressing severe distress and fear regarding Sage's presence in the home.
His recent ultimatum to Amanda—that she should leave if she is uncomfortable—shows how close the situation is to a breaking point, overriding his desire to avoid another divorce.
The core debate centers on parental commitment versus spousal partnership under stress. Should OP prioritize his role as a father by ensuring his older children have a s**ble home, even if it means risking his marriage?
Or must he support his wife's stated boundary regarding her safety and comfort around one of the stepchildren, potentially necessitating the older children's removal?
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