AITAH for telling my boyfriend I wouldn't date him if he was trans
The user, an 18-year-old female (OP), was in a two-year relationship with her 19-year-old boyfriend (C).
While their relationship was generally positive, a conflict arose when C posed a hypothetical question: whether OP would still date him if he transitioned to a woman.
OP, identifying as a cisgender straight female, honestly stated that she would not date a trans woman because she is only attracted to men. C reacted with anger, accusing her of being transphobic and demanding she leave his house.
The immediate aftermath involved four days of no contact, causing concern among mutual friends. OP is now left questioning her reaction and whether her honest statement about s*xual orientation const*tutes discrimination.
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The core of OP's conflict stems from the clash between her honest expression of her s*xual orientation and C's expectation that love and history should override inherent s*xual attraction in a hypothetical scenario.
OP feels unjustly labeled as transphobic for stating boundaries related to her s*xuality, while C appears deeply hurt by what he perceived as a lack of unconditional acceptance.
The debate centers on whether s*xual orientation boundaries, when stated hypothetically, are acceptable expressions of self or an unfair rejection of the partner's ident*ty potential.
Should OP prioritize her partner's feelings regarding a hypothetical scenario, or is her right to define her s*xual attraction absolute, regardless of the context?
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