We got an offer on a house, our friends asked if they can move in
The Original Poster (OP) and their husband recently had their offer accepted on a new house, leading to excitement as they began sharing the good news with their social circle.
Shortly after the announcement, a close friend and his wife, who are planning to attend school in the same state, asked if they could move in with the OP immediately upon closing for an entire year.
The OP felt an immediate internal resistance to the request, especially since the friends did not mention contributing financially through rent or groceries.
While the OP fears the confrontation and feeling like a 'huge a*shole' for refusing, they are also concerned about settling into their first home while immediately sharing it with others without any es**blished boundaries.
The OP's central dilemma is whether to agree to this potentially overwhelming request or to es**blish firm boundaries early on.
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The OP is currently caught between the desire to maintain a positive friendship and the practical need to es**blish a s**ble, private environment in their new home as first-time owners.
Their discomfort stems from the friend's perceived expectation of free accommodation, which conflicts directly with the OP's need for personal space and time to settle in.
The situation forces a decision between avoiding immediate social discomfort and prioritizing the long-term well-being and financial security of their new household.
Readers must weigh the value of preserving the friendship against the necessity of setting clear, early boundaries regarding shared living arrangements and financial contributions.
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