AITAH for telling my fiancé I won’t help pay the mortgage?
The original poster (OP), a 29-year-old woman, and her fiancé, a 30-year-old man, have been in a long-term relationship, having a child together in 2020. After OP lost her job, they moved in rent-free with her grandmother.
During this time, OP focused on her education while her fiancé supported them financially and her grandmother cared for their child. The couple planned to buy a house together once OP completed her schooling.
When they began seriously looking for a house, the fiancé revealed a condition: he would be the sole name on the mortgage and deed, even though OP agreed to pay half of the mortgage payments.
When OP objected to having no legal ownership, he admitted this was intentional, citing his sole contribution to the 40% down payment as justification.
This led to a significant conflict where OP refused to contribute financially to a property she would not own, resulting in the fiancé calling her derogatory names and demanding she uphold the initial payment agreement.
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The core conflict revolves around the OP's expectation of a financial and legal partnership in purchasing a major a*set, set against her fiancé's unilateral decision to secure the a*set solely in his name, despite her planned financial contributions and years of supporting the household in other ways.
The fiancé views his financial contributions as grounds for complete ownership, while the OP views the refusal to share ownership as invalidating their partnership.
The situation forces a decision: Should the OP contribute half the mortgage payments for a house she has no legal claim to, or is she justified in withholding payment because the ownership structure contradicts the definition of a shared partnership?
Readers must consider whether financial contribution without legal equity const*tutes a fair arrangement in a long-term committed relationship.
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