AITAH for reneging on letting someone live with me because they said they won't sleep with me?
The user, a 29-year-old man (OP), offered his spare room to a 28-year-old female friend of several years who was facing financial hardship. They planned this living arrangement over a month, with the move-in date set for the second week of February.
During discussions about their future living situation, the friend casually stated that she would not be sleeping with the OP, implying she a*sumed he had an ulterior s*xual motive. This surprised the OP, who stated he did not want a romantic relationship.
Her response that this was a standard boundary for any roommate made the OP feel the comment was condescending, leading him to reconsider the arrangement and seek time to withdraw the offer.
The core dilemma is whether the OP is wrong (AITAH) for feeling uneasy and wanting to cancel the sublet based on this interaction.
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The OP is currently caught between maintaining a potentially awkward or misunderstood living arrangement with a friend and the need to a*sert his boundaries and intentions clearly.
The conflict stems from the friend projecting an a*sumption onto the OP's platonic offer of help, which caused the OP to feel his motives were unfairly questioned and judged.
The reader must consider whether the friend's preemptive statement was a necessary boundary setting for safety or an unwarranted insult to the OP's character.
The central question remains: Was the OP justified in feeling insulted and reconsidering the housing offer because of the friend's specific, unso***ited remark about s*x?
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