AITAH for ending a relationship after my partner came out as trans
The story involves a 23-year-old woman (OP) who ended a six-month relationship with her partner (22MTF) shortly after the partner came out as transgender.
The OP identifies as 100% straight and stated that her decision to break up was directly due to her partner now being a woman, as s*xual orientation dictates her attraction.
The ex-partner reacted with significant anger, arguing that the relationship had progressed too far to end based on this change and insisted they should continue dating.
The ex-partner accused the OP of only caring about physical appearance rather than her personality or ident*ty.
This conflict leaves the OP questioning whether her decision to end the relationship based on s*xual orientation makes her the bad person in the situation.
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The central conflict for the OP is the tension between respecting her es**blished s*xual orientation, which excludes romantic/s*xual attraction to women, and the emotional expectations of her former partner who feels invalidated by the breakup.
The OP feels she is supporting the partner's ident*ty while simultaneously needing to maintain clear personal boundaries regarding attraction.
The reader must weigh whether fidelity to one's intrinsic s*xual orientation const*tutes a valid reason for ending a relationship, even after emotional investment, against the claim that ending the relationship because of a gender transition amounts to a fundamental rejection of the person's core being.
Is the OP justified in prioritizing her s*xual orientation, or should the depth of the existing emotional bond supersede this factor?
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