Woman Scolded Me For Untying My Bikini Top At The Pool And I Told Her To Leave
The user, a 22-year-old woman (OP), was using the pool area at her apartment complex to tan and study during a quiet morning period.
She was lying on her stomach with her bikini top untied to avoid back tan lines, ensuring that no intimate parts were exposed, as her position made exposure unavoidable regardless of the ties.
A woman arrived with her children and chose a lounge chair directly next to the OP. This woman then scolded the OP for having her bikini top untied in front of her children, leading to a brief, hostile exchange where the OP suggested she move.
The OP is now questioning whether she was wrong for her choice of attire arrangement in a public, albeit shared, amenity space.
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The core conflict involves a clash between the OP's expectation of privacy and personal comfort in using a shared amenity space and the visiting mother's expectation that public behavior, especially near children, must adhere to stricter, more conservative standards of dress.
The central question remains whether the OP v***ated a social norm regarding modesty in a shared community pool area, or if the visiting mother overstepped by imposing her standards on another adult who was not intentionally exposing herself, thus leaving the OP to decide if she should alter her behavior for the comfort of others.
Strong Takes and Sharper Words from the Crowd:
What started as a simple post quickly turned into a wildfire of opinions, with users chiming in from all sides.