aitah for not calling myself a “cis-girl”
The original poster (OP), a 17-year-old female, recently declined romantic advances from a male student at her school because he is transgender, stating that she is not attracted to transgender people.
This initial rejection led to a confrontation with some mutual friends who accused the OP of being h**ophobic or transphobic.
The conflict reignited when an 18-year-old friend, Nadia, brought the topic up again, leading to a lengthy debate over labels like 'ally' and 'cis.' The discussion escalated when the OP resisted being labeled 'cis' or needing to preface her ident*ty as a girl, which Nadia interpreted as implying that transgender girls are not real girls.
The OP is now confused about her position and why her insistence on simply being called 'a girl' is causing friction.
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The core conflict for the OP centers on the tension between her personal s*xual orientation and her refusal to adopt specific ident*ty labels suggested by her p*er group, specifically the term 'cis.' While the OP a*serts she believes in equal rights, she struggles with the social expectation to perform her ident*ty or use terminology that feels unnecessary or defining to her experience as a cisgender woman.
The central question remains whether the OP's rejection of the 'cis' label, rooted in a desire for simplicity about her ident*ty as someone who was born and has always identified as a girl, const*tutes transphobia, or if her friends are placing undue pressure on her to conform to specific activist language standards.
The debate hinges on the difference between holding respectful beliefs and adhering to required linguistic frameworks.
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