I feel v***ated and confused by what my fiancé did to me. WIBTAH if I told my parents?
The story involves a 20-year-old woman (OP) who is engaged to her 26-year-old fiancé. They have maintained a commitment to abstain from s*xual activity until marriage, a boundary the fiancé had previously supported.
The conflict arose when the fiancé initiated unwanted physical advances and then aggressively pressured the OP to perform an act she refused, physically restraining her and causing her physical pain until she complied.
The immediate aftermath involved a minimal apology focused only on her physical injury, leading the OP to feel v***ated, scared, and confused about her situation and her fiancé's sudden change in behavior.
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The OP is currently in a state of emotional distress, feeling v***ated by an act that occurred while she was physically overpowered by her fiancé.
Her core conflict centers on reconciling this abusive event with her previous positive view of him and the religious/personal commitment they share, which makes her feel responsible for the non-consensual act.
The central question for debate is whether the OP should prioritize maintaining the secret to uphold her commitment and relationship s**bility, or if her immediate need for support and safety outweighs the need for secrecy regarding this severe breach of trust and physical boundary. Should she disclose the a*sault to her mother or seek help elsewhere?
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