AITAH for j**king off with my wife in the bathroom?
In the quiet tension of a decade-long marriage, a man wrestles with the painful mismatch of desire and intimacy.
His wife's sporadic moods leave him yearning, caught between understanding her needs and his own unfulfilled longing, a silent struggle shadowing their anniversary getaway.
Amid the backdrop of a California trip meant to celebrate love, hope flickers faintly as exhaustion dampens passion.
The husband's hope for connection clashes with the reality of his wife's distance, igniting a poignant conflict of unmet desires and fragile hopes in the heart of their shared journey.
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The original poster (OP) is facing a significant conflict rooted in mismatched libidos and differing expectations regarding sexual intimacy and self-gratification within their long-term marriage.
The core issue is the OP's decision to masturbate while watching pornography in the hotel room, an act done out of personal need due to their higher sex drive, which resulted in their wife witnessing the act and subsequently withdrawing emotionally.
The central question for debate is whether the OP was justified in privately addressing their high sex drive through masturbation while on vacation, given the wife's expressed tiredness, or if walking in on the act constituted a breach of marital intimacy and respect, warranting the wife's current silence. Where does personal sexual need end and shared marital boundaries begin in this context?