AITAH for telling my husband that I want him to use a condom?
She had just brought new life into the world, her body still healing, her heart vulnerable, and she made her boundaries clear—no birth control for at least a year, and condoms if they were to be intimate.
It wasn’t just about prevention; it was about protecting her fragile emotional and physical state in the whirlwind of postpartum chaos. But her husband, silenced by his own discomfort, betrayed that trust with quiet resistance and half-truths.
What should have been a shared commitment to her wellbeing became a silent battle of wills, leaving her to navigate the raw pain of feeling unheard and unsafe in the very relationship that should have been her sanctuary.
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The original poster (OP) is facing a significant conflict where her necessary health and stability boundary regarding contraception clashes directly with her husband's desire for a specific sexual practice.
She feels justified in prioritizing her well-being and the family's financial stability following a difficult pregnancy, while her husband interprets her boundary as selfish restriction within their marital intimacy.
Given the OP's absolute need to prevent another rapid pregnancy due to health and financial reasons, is it reasonable for the husband to pressure her to abandon a stated contraceptive boundary, or does marital intimacy require that both partners must agree to the method used for protection?