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AITA for snapping at my friend who keeps ditching me because I now have a child?

Rachel Thompson 6255 comments

In the quiet corners of Manchester, a mother navigates the profound transformation of her life, cradling her precious 18-month-old daughter, Ciara.

The arrival of motherhood has reshaped her world, shrinking her circle of friends but deepening the bond with her steadfast best friend, Mia, whose unwavering support offers a rare beacon of comfort amidst the whirlwind.

Yet, beneath the surface of their friendship lies an unspoken tension, as the rhythms of their lives diverge. Mia’s invitations to step outside her comfort zone grow more frequent, while the mother’s days are tethered to the demands of home and child.

Their once effortless closeness now strains under the weight of missed visits and unmet expectations, revealing the delicate balance between love, time, and the evolving definition of friendship.

AITA for snapping at my friend who keeps ditching me because I now have a child?
‘AITA for snapping at my friend who keeps ditching me because I now have a child?’

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Users didn’t stay quiet — they showed up in full force, mixing support with sharp criticism. From calling out bad behavior to offering real talk, the comments lit up fast.

The original poster (OP) is feeling neglected and rejected by her best friend, Mia, because Mia consistently prioritizes socializing outside the home, away from the OP's child.

The central conflict stems from the OP's expectation that Mia should accommodate her new life as a stay-at-home mother by visiting the OP's home, while Mia appears to desire a return to their previous social routines that did not involve childcare responsibilities.

Was the OP justified in confronting Mia aggressively over perceived neglect and subsequently demanding she leave, or did her reaction escalate the situation unnecessarily given the fundamental life changes affecting their friendship dynamic?

The debate rests on whose expectations regarding social time—the new mother's need for local, child-inclusive interaction or the child-free friend's need for familiar, child-free outings—should take precedence.

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Rachel Thompson

Communication Specialist & Storyteller

Rachel Thompson has spent 15+ years studying the art of communication and human connection. As a communication specialist and trained mediator, she understands how words can heal or harm. Rachel's storytelling approach helps readers see themselves in complex situations and find clarity in difficult moments.

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