AITAH for thinking that my gf losing her parental rights for 3 of 4 of her kids is a red flag?
He entered the relationship hopeful and open-hearted, only to find himself tangled in a web of half-truths and painful uncertainties.
The woman he cared for carried a past filled with shadows—children he never knew about and stories that didn’t quite add up—leaving him questioning everything he thought he understood about their bond.
Caught between love and doubt, he wrestled with the weight of her revelations, unsure whether to trust her words or protect his own heart.
Each day became a battle between hope and skepticism, as he searched desperately for clarity in a story that seemed too complicated to unravel.
Hey I’m 27m I really need some advice on this hopefully any one who been through this can give me some tips. So my gf 32f has been together for over a year now we met through a mutual friend.
So the first time we met she told me she had one kid then a few months later she told me she had multiple children and 3 of the 4 she has no parental rights.
She told me that her bd at the time had something to do with it but in all honesty I don’t know if I can believe the story. I been thinking and thinking about this whole thing hopefully y’all can help.
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This one sparked a storm. The comments range from brutally honest to surprisingly supportive — and everything in between.
ExpressLab6564 - :- Run
kilgirlie - :- Either she's lying or she did something horrible to her children. Doesn't really matter which, you should run. NTA
constant_questing - :- There must have been a very strong case against her to remove her rights, courts generally don't take parental rights away from mothers unless it's essential for the children's safety.
BorrySmythe99 - :- Three children removed, AND she had planned to lie by not telling you... Why are you still with her?
Tumor_with_eyes - :- Don’t walk away. Run. Run and don’t look back. This isn’t a “red flag,” it’s a god dammed Chinese military parade walking down the street dude.
RussellZyskey4949 - :- There will be court records on this. In most of the jurisdictions you will not be entitled to see these court records. But. In many jurisdictions, your lawyer, any lawyer, is allowed to look at them.
I think it's time for you to spend a few dollars on some Lexus Nexus type stuff. Or as I said, spend a few dollars on a lawyer now to save a few $100,000 later. The fact you're even asking these questions should also be a red flag. " You don't need a condom, I'm on the pill" is next.
Impossible-Play-5987 - :- That’s the second red flag. The first one was lying about how many children she has. Better break than be sorry later.
The original poster is grappling with significant uncertainty and distrust stemming from the revelation that his girlfriend withheld crucial information regarding the number of her children and his lack of parental rights over three of them.
His current emotional state is defined by doubt about his girlfriend's honesty and a struggle to reconcile this hidden reality with their established relationship.
Given the substantial nature of the concealed information, the central question becomes: Is a foundational trust in a relationship irreparably damaged by the initial, extensive omission of such significant life facts, or can honesty, even when belated, be sufficient grounds to continue building a future together?