AITA for leaving my husband at the airport after he tried to make me carry his luggage?
After four long weeks apart, the moment of reunion at the airport should have been filled with warmth and relief.
Instead, a sharp tension cut through the air as exhaustion clashed with expectation, revealing cracks in their bond that no time or distance had healed.
The weight of his bags became a symbol not just of physical burden, but of emotional strain threatening to overwhelm them both. In her delicate state, carrying the weight of new life within her, she faced a harsh and unyielding reality.
His demands and dismissive tone pierced through her resolve, igniting a silent storm of hurt and frustration. This was no longer just about luggage—it was about respect, understanding, and the fragile threads holding their relationship together.
My husband (32) was on a business trip that last for 4 weeks. Once his got back he told me to come pick him up. I drove to the airport and got inside the get him from there. The second he saw me he let go of his two big bags and started walking.
I tried to get him to stop but he told me to get the bags and follow him. Note that I'm 12 weeke pregnant but he tells me that I'm still "in good shape".
I told him those bags were to heavy for me to carry but he went ona rant about how exhausted he was from sitting in that plane for 4hrs straight. his arms, neck, legs and back hurt.
I refused to take a step ahead with those bags and told him it's his luggage so he gets to deal with it. His tone got more tense and told me that I was being annoying. I told him to get someone to carry his bags for him and he replied "I already have one and it's you.
come on I'm so tired of standing" then kept walking and ignoring me. I left his luggage where he left and walk straight past him. He freaked out and started yelling at me to get back. I walked out and got into my car and drove off because I was literally having none of it.
I felt so upset and humiliated. He got home by a taxi but was livid at me for leaving him at the airport just because he asked for my help. He also said I embarrassed him and made a scene and overreacted big time. He went upstairs and stayed in the bedroom after the shower.
He is still upset with me saying I reacted poorly and in an unsupportive; inappropriate manner.
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Users didn’t stay quiet — they showed up in full force, mixing support with sharp criticism. From calling out bad behavior to offering real talk, the comments lit up fast.
VxGB111 - :- NTA. A lot of abuse starts when the woman gets pregnant. And seriously, what dude in his right mind just drops his bags on his girl like she's a valet. It's time for a divorce
wanesandwaves - :- NTA. What the actual eff? He expects you, his pregnant wife, to carry his bags for him when he’s sat on a plane for 4 hours. 4 hours?
What a hard knock life for him 🙄 It’s so easy to get a trolley to move the bags yet he wouldn’t even listen to you but just demand you carry his bags like a servant. You’re his pregnant wife, not his pack mule!
Impressive-Amoeba-97 - :- NTA. My husband works at the airport and sees a lot of stuff like this. He used to think I was a bit loopy when I kept saying women are treated like slaves. Then one day, his eyes just opened and HE SAW IT.
When men pull stuff like what your husband did in front of my husband, my husband will tell them to carry their own bags. And they do! These men are seriously gross. I've heard much worse stories than yours, and yours...I'm humiliated on your behalf. Don't put up with shoddy treatment.
smalways - :- Pregnant or not, 4 hr flight or 24 hr flight, you do not need to carry his luggage. Wonder where he got the audacity from. NTA!
shaka0903 - :- NTA. Girl pack your stuff and go now. Red flags all over his behavior and you are about to have a kid with him.
ghostofastorm - :- NTA but I have to ask, does he normally treat you this way? This is pretty glaring red flag. He didn't even speak to you? He not asked for help, but demanded you take his things for him? You're pregnant and he's expecting you to carry anything heavy?
He yelled at you, in a public setting no less, because you wanted to be cautious with your pregnancy and you're also not a servant to be ordered around? These are not normal or appropriate behaviors.
Even if you weren't pregnant, it isn't okay to ignore your wife you haven't seen in a month and expect then demand she carry your luggage.
ha13ra - :- NTA I would leave him in general, not just at the airport... Why on earth did he feel that you, his pregnant wife, were obligated to carry his luggage? Does he often feel entitled to other things as well? That's not normal behaviour. I don't want to judge by just one story, but this incident screams marinara flags. 🚩
The original poster (OP) felt deeply disrespected and humiliated after her husband demanded she carry his heavy luggage immediately upon his return from a long trip, despite her being pregnant.
The central conflict arose from the husband prioritizing his minor discomfort after a flight over acknowledging and accommodating his wife's pregnant physical limitations and expectations for a supportive reunion.
Was the OP's decision to leave the luggage and drive away an overreaction to a demand that disregarded her physical state, or was the husband justified in expecting assistance from his spouse after a long journey, making the OP's action unsupportive?