As the night unraveled, a simple evening spiraled into a moment of stark realization—the chilling dismissal of her beliefs and dreams. With courage, she escaped the scene, reclaiming her voice and dignity, leaving behind a man whose values clashed so deeply with her own.
I went on a date with a guy I had a one night stand with like a month ago. Yes my friends already told me this was a bad idea.
The first red flag was when we sat down at the first bar and we ordered drinks then he ordered.. chicken tenders? But didn’t ask if I wanted anything to eat. He ended up taking me to a hookah lounge (what the hell) and that’s when politics came up.
He told me he didn’t want to talk about it, and at this point I was drunk. He pretty much told me he voted for Trump without actually saying it, and ended up telling me “A woman could never be president” This is when I called my friend to come pick me up.
I said I was going to the bathroom and never came back. He hasn’t reached out to me at all. AITAH?
Conclusion
The original poster (OP) felt immediate discomfort and recognized severe ideological differences with their date, leading them to abruptly leave the situation when faced with misogynistic comments. The central conflict lies between the OP prioritizing their personal values and safety by ending the date immediately, and the implied expectation, perhaps from the date or social norms, to stay or handle the confrontation differently.
Considering the clear clash of fundamental beliefs and the OP’s swift exit when feeling unsafe or offended, the question remains: Is it acceptable to abandon a date immediately upon encountering deeply opposing or offensive views, or does social etiquette require a more formal explanation or attempt at resolution, even when intoxicated?
Here’s how people reacted:
Instead of eating on an empty stomach he got food
I can get being miffed he didn’t ask you if you wanted anything…but you are an adult
When he ordered you could have ordered something too
Again…not defending him
Just confused as to why chicken tenders was an issue
She should’ve been the first and it would’ve been a high bar afterward for any woman to match.
Here is the synopsis I got… You had a one night stand. Couldn’t find anyone else to even date. So circled back around to this guy after a MONTH. Then when he offended you you are still concerned “he hasn’t reached out to me at all”.
That is not healthy behavior.
Pro Tip :Maybe next time don’t lead from the poonany and the one night stand if you are looking for someone if character.
Yall just make up red flags sometimes I stg.
“Hookah lounge (what the hell)”
Yall just make up red flags sometimes I stg.
Fair enough if you don’t want to date someone with an ignorant viewpoint but you’re also judgemental as fuck. ESH
You may want to ask yourself why you seem concerned with his reaching back out though.
Ha ok. 👍
That aside, you’re NTA
Also, no grown adult that orders chicken tenders at a restaurant is going to contribute anything meaningful to your life.
No idea what a hookah bar is. I’m old pub sports bar club that’s my knowledge
No beating around bush.
NTA. Let MAGAts be single and lonely.
What the fuck? How old are you, 10?