Caught between loyalty to family and the fight for justice, she faces an impossible choice. Her father’s plea to keep peace only deepens her pain, forcing her to shoulder a burden that isn’t hers to bear. In this storm of deceit, sacrifice, and shattered dreams, the true cost of love and trust is revealed.
I got the reservation for a steal because I booked early and covid made things uncertain. Well now demand for wedding venues has skyrocketed. The venue is now asking nearly triple the original cost for the same date.
They said they’ll only honor the original reservation if I show proof that my stepsister committed fraud/identity theft in the form of a police report. My father has begged me not to involve the police.
So I told him he’ll need to cover the new cost then. All of it except my original deposit. Because I’m aggravated as fuck. He’s going to be selling some property in order to do this.
He has put down the additional deposit for the venue already though. I know he was not to blame but he houses that witch and by asking me not report her fraud ass, I can only assume he takes responsibility for her actions.
Am I the asshole? I do feel guilty because my fiance and I are much more financially well off than my father. But I just feel like this is not my problem to fix. He did find an alternative venue that was pretty nice and wasn’t as expensive but I said it had to be the original venue.
I’m just incredibly pissed off.
Conclusion
The original poster (OP) is angry and feels victimized after their stepsister impersonated them to cancel a valuable wedding venue reservation, leading to a massive price increase. The central conflict arises from the OP’s demand that the stepsister’s actions must result in a police report for fraud, a condition their father strongly opposes, leading the OP to shift the financial burden of the price hike onto the father.
Is the OP justified in refusing the alternative venue and forcing their father to cover the inflated cost unless a police report is filed against the stepsister, or is this an unfair escalation, especially considering the OP’s superior financial standing compared to their father?
Here’s how people reacted:
You’re punishing the wrong person and being pointlessly stubborn. If anyone should pay, it’s the sister here. If your dad sells property not only does he lose that money, he also loses all of its future value and frankly your wedding is not worth that. Get over yourself. It’s just a party. You can have those any time, at any venue, and it’s not worth ruining someone over, especially not just because you’re mad at someone else.
Protect your dad and get back what’s yours: file the police report. Reports don’t mean anyone is charged with a crime. She made an impersonating phone call, she didn’t steal a credit card. The police will take your statement and at most give her a stern talking to. They arent going to arrest her, especially if you do not intend to press charges, and it won’t create a criminal record. You just get the police report.
Alternatively, switch the venue. Honestly should have done that anyway as a venue that refuses to uncancel a reservation when they still have an open slot is unreasonable and should lose business. They’re making things difficult and holding the slot hostage because they think they can get away with it. That’s shitty AF. Also, as a different, acceptable and cheaper venue was already found, not doing so at the cost of robbing the dad is beyond selfish.
Edit: by the way, to prevent further sabotage, I advise setting a password (in writing!) with whatever venue you use and all vendors. Any cancellation or change requires the password.
Yes, he is. Because he is enabling her to be a witch (presumably not for the first time) instead of raising her to understand actions have consequences, and that she has to take responsibility for them.
> He did find an alternative venue that was pretty nice and wasn’t as expensive but I said it had to be the original venue.
As you should. Using an alternative venue because your stepsister did something wrong is even further enabling your stepsister, teaching her not only that she doesn’t have to suffer consequences for heinous actions but also that she can actually get what she wants through them.
She deserves the police report. Your father can choose to shield her from it, but if he does, that is not your price to pay. It is his.
NTA
Edit: Also, put a password on all your vendors, NOW
Your stepsister is a massive AH. Unfortunately that left you in a shitty situation. But seeing as your dad has asked you not to report her I agree that he then has to help fix the situation.
It is your wedding day and being a good planner you had already booked ahead to have the venue of your choice. You deserve to have what you want for your wedding day.
Asking your father to cover the excess for what you were originally going to pay is very reasonable. (That’s the way I read your post? Like the difference between the original price and the new price?)
I’d be red faced psycho angry 😡
I’d be univiting step sister
Good luck with the wedding and hope everything else goes smoothly
What crime did your stepsister commit and what are you going to get a police report for? IANAL but I’m 95% calling a wedding venue, giving the wrong name and saying “please cancel my reservation” isn’t identity theft. I imagine that even if you decided to go this route you wouldn’t get very far (unless there’s some real identity theft I missed).
I think T A is the wedding venue, just lobbing out “well if you can get the police to weigh in then fine.” Seems like quite a bomb to lob into a random family when it doesn’t seem like a viable solution.
That police report needs to get filed, regardless of how Dad decides to clean up after her. She’s 18, and identity theft at her age will carry a steep price, that’s why he’s asking you not to go to the police. But honestly, that’s a disservice to your step-sister who clearly needs to learn a lesson about interference and minding her own damn business.
Edit: Spelling
Your sister is by far the biggest asshole for what she did, but forcing your dad to rebook the venue at a price he clearly can’t afford is extremely mean and punishing the complete wrong person.
Institute some kind of password system with all your vendors though. Because she WILL try this again.
I’d report her to the police even without the cost coverage but I’m petty as hell.
You’ve been fair