If youre living in a 2 bedroom and you’re already paying half the rent. What rent do you think he has to be immediately burdened into paying for moving in? Thats entirely up to you on what or how much rent you charge him to share a room with you. I could see if he moved in, you didnt charge him rent so he could save up, but he continued not to work and spend his money on hobbies rather then getting on his feet.

Sounds like you dont love him or honestly even like him or this wouldnt be a question. Sounds like hes in a tough spot and you dont want to help. Which is fine, you’re not obligated too, but this wouldnt even cross my mind if it was my girlfriend.

I totally understand the roomate perspective, but if you ask and she says yes or no, thats up to her. You’re pre imagining what shell say and why. 

You sure you’re not just trying to end the realtionship?

NTA. Honey, you’re not putting him on the street. He’s putting himself there. He knew he had a deadline for moving out, but rather than making plans for that, like saving up a deposit and trying to earn more (whether that’s a better paying job, more hours, a second job…whatever), he seems to have decided that his parents were bluffing and kept doing his refusal to adult routine. The fact that the only person he says he can turn to is is fairly new girlfriend suggests that either he hasn’t maintained strong relationships with anyone in his life (which is concerning) or everyone else has communicated expectations for living with them that he either can’t or won’t meet.

Absolutely WNBTAH. Don’t let him so much as stay the night bc he won’t leave. This is a brand new relationship and moving in together is extreme.

I’d be shocked if he hadn’t planned on “having” to move in with you bc he had nowhere to go. He never told you about his parent’s ultimatum and doesn’t seem to have planned for it at all? Maybe he needs to have a conversation with his parents requesting more time but this time he actually pays them some rent (if that’s what bugs them), OR he actively shows them how much he saves every paycheck in order to build a neat egg to move out.

No you aren’t. He didn’t tell you so that you’d feel bad for him. You’ll also end up paying for everything, including his share of the rent and bills. Plus, you know your roommate doesn’t want him there.

You’ve only been together for two months and honestly, it seems like you’re not very invested or interested in anything more than what you have. Time to break up. “I’m sorry but, not only can’t you not move in but I’m breaking up with you. And no, you can’t stay for a while.”. If you let him in he won’t leave. You two are not compatible.

NTA. And i am seeing huge red flags.

1. His parents gave him a deadline, and he did nothing to prepare.
2. He says that you are his only option. That is extremely manipulative behavior. Don’t fall for the BS.

This is a terrible idea. Please don’t let him move in. He is looking for someone else to pay his way now that his parents aren’t.

Just let him know that you have a roommate and can’t have anyone else in the apartment. Then maybe lose his number. He doesn’t sound like good bf material.

NTA. I’m just going to say it: he absolutely has been planning for the move out deadline, and you’re his plan. He’s found a girl with her own place and a decent income, and golly gee how could you possibly say no?

It’s super easy. It’s just two little letters. N. O.

Girl, you’re not even that into him. It’s time to let him go.

And no, he won’t end up sleeping on the street. He’ll find a friend with a sofa he can crash on while he looks for a girl who isn’t quite as switched on as you.

NTA. Living with someone is a huge deal. If you say you aren’t invested in the relationship and you aren’t seeing responsible behavior from him, he should not live with you.
When things don’t go well and you want him to leave, it’ll be difficult to get him out of your space. He won’t have any money saved up and you’ll once again be faced with his potential homelessness issue.
You also have to consider your roommate, who is on your lease and your main residential commitment right now.

NTA. Letting him move in with you – rent free, no less – would be a terrible move for both of you. You’d be miserable and he’d be stuck in adolescence.

If he’s EVER going to be the kind of guy who can be in a serious relationship with ANYBODY, he needs to live on his own for a while and learn how to do things for himself.

Say no and see what he does. If he’s worth your time, it’ll be the wake-up call he needs. If not, he’ll at least be out of your life.

NTA. You are not letting him become homeless, HE did this to himself.

He had a deadline to move out of his parents house, and he did NOTHING to save up for the move. He reminds me of my father, who was always “investing in his businesses” but when that didn’t work he’d just have his current gf shoulder the financial burdens of him not producing enough money.

He’s a grown ass adult. HE did this to himself and he needs to work things out.

You’re not his only option. You’re one of his easiest options. There are shelters. There’s getting another job. There’s working on himself instead of starting a relationship. There’s joining the military. There was him taking less risk and planning more appropriately when his parents gave him a clear deadline.

Do not move in. And to be honest it sounds like you may need to part ways. Kindly.

NTA.

NTA – why are you stringing him along? You aren’t feeling it, he isn’t on the same page as you – maybe not even in the same book, and he has a track record of mooching off his parents. You already know he wants to mooch off you now. It’s the real reason you don’t want him moving in.

2 months is way too soon to be moving in with a new partner. That is all you have to say.

If he’s worked part time, ignored his parents and been spending his low wages on himself rather than improving his home situation up to this point, it doesn’t sound likely that he’d pay towards his keep at your place, either. You’re NOT his only option- he could work more, rent a room or sort another agreement with his family. He is not your responsibility. NTA

It’s definitely a tough situation, but it’s okay to set boundaries, especially if you’re not ready for that level of commitment. You’ve got to think about your own space, finances, and comfort first, especially if your roommate isn’t on board either. Helping him out doesn’t mean you have to compromise your own well-being he might need to find other options.

To me, it sounds like if you bring him in, you create a problem with your roommate.

Your roommate will move out, leaving you with a man that acts like a child and now you have to pay the full rent. He didn’t take his parents serious, he won’t take you seriously.

Your apartment is too small. Being in close quarters will only make things worse.

Nta.

After only 2 months it is very unlikely you know this guy well enough to start living together. This also isn’t serious for you so he could move in as a lodger if you had a seperate room, but not as a partner.

It is also not fair on the other person you share with that someone you hardly know is going to be sharing her space.

Absolutely NTA. It is NOT your responsibility to help him get his life in order! He has had plenty of time to sort his life out. On the contrary you are being a considerate person to your room mate as she doesn’t deserve to have him move in if she’s not comfortable with it.

You will actually be the TA if you let him move in. Don’t do that to your poor roommate…especially since you mentioned that she already expressed she is not comfortable with him around…please don’t make him your roommate’s problem too 🙁

NYA – you have been dating for only 2 months, that’s not enough time to really know him. thisis something you need to discuss with your roommate because it will affect her too. Also is this something that your landlord would even allow?

Request for info: is there something that prevents him from working more than 20 hours a week? Social, physical etc. Issues?  

And his parents would let their son become homeless? Are you really his only option? 

A guy thinking that is a fine option to live off his female acquaintance of only 2 months is a bad choice from every angle. Why waste any time on him at all, let alone host him indefinitely? NTA 

So he’s had this deadline from his parents for a while and as you said ‘he pursued you’….
Does it not occur to you he’s with you so he could move in with you when his parents kicked him out??

NTA, and unless you want to end up in a maternal role for this guy, it’s time to end it.

If I could offer one suggestion, keep reminding yourself you don’t owe this guy ANYTHING.

You sound like a sensible girl. You would be an idiot to let him move in. He ignored his parents’ deadline. Why would he be any more responsible for you.

NTA

I mean, is he nice enough? ‘Cause he sounds like a dick.

YWNBTA, in fact if you were to allow him to live with you that would be a real asshole move.

NTA I wouldn’t let him move in either. You have a roommate and 2 months is way too early. His housing issues are his issues, not yours

NTA. He got himself into this mess not you. He is grade A loser and you need to get him out of your life before he drags you down.

NTA next he will want you to “invest” the money you saved for a house. I’m sure he has another idea for another “business “

if you do this, he will never leave. DO NOT DO THIS. you don’t even like him so just break up with him and move on. nta.