Amid the innocent chaos of a cranky child and the unyielding stance of a sister who opposes her lifestyle, a simple request for sweets spirals into a powerful clash of trust and principles. This is not just about brownies—it’s about autonomy, understanding, and the invisible lines drawn within family ties.
I live in a state where weed is 100% legal and sold in stores FYI. I usually buy ingredients from my budtender then bake myself marijuana-laced sweets. I make large batches so there’s often some in my fridge.
Yesterday my sister and parents dropped by unannounced (they called literally 30 mins before being at my door to tell me they decided to visit and were on the way), my sister’s 5yo son Jasper was brought along.
My sister asked me if I had any sweets for Jasper because he was being cranky and loud, I said I’d check, I went to the fridge and my sister followed me there. Of course I did not consider the brownies a sweet to calm Jasper down so I said no, no sweets, and she pointed out the brownies and said like oh this will do great.
I told her no, the brownies are 100% off-limits for everyone and especially Jasper. Sister is very anti-weed so I did not want to just say they’re space brownies so I just said, nobody is touching the brownies, my roof my rules, this is an unpassable line in the sand.
She said ok.
An hour or so later, we’re out in the yard chatting when Jasper starts puking, and he is getting red and crying. My sister freaks out and asks me what the hell I put in those brownies.
I’m like “you’re didn’t fucking do that”, I run to the fridge and yes, my sister stole 4 brownies and fed them to Jasper behind my back, after I explicitly forbade it. My sister seemed to only care about screaming at me and blaming me for “poisoning” her son, I had to yell at her to load her fucking kid in the car because he needed to go to the hospital.
After all that was behind us, Jasper had come down, my sister called me to berate and blame me, and I lost it at her, I screamed back that **SHE** poisoned her own son because **SHE STOLE** something she knew was entirely off-limits.
She ended up crying because I cut her off and turned all her accusations back at her. Today, our parents visited me (sister and Jasper were not there) to discuss the situation more calmly, and they say they *understaaaand* that *technicallyyyyyy* she stole the drugs from me after being told not to, but that it was my space brownies in the first place and I should not have space brownies in a house where a kid might find them anyway.
I told them that it’s my own house and I absolute can have space brownies in my own house if I want to – I do not have kids, and they did not tell me in advance they were going to visit me, so I could not stash the brownies somewhere else or make sure the pan was fully eaten before a kid entered my house.
They still insisted to remove all the blame from my sister to put it on me, even if they were trying to be diplomatic about it, like saying that well my sister is stubborn so she will never admit blame and apologize, so to save the peace I should be the bigger man and take on the blame and apologize to her (and probably get punched by Jasper’s father, who’s apparently been in a rage about the incident).
I ended up getting angry at my parents because they just would not budge no matter what I could say, and I said that if I have to choose between having the freedom to have weed in my own house and being visited by relatives, I’d happily continue getting high and make my whole family persona non grata inside my home.
They seemed really hurt by that, and they left soon after in a very sour ambiance.
Conclusion
The original poster (OP) is facing a severe conflict stemming from their sister’s decision to defy an explicit boundary by giving cannabis-infused edibles to her child, leading to the child’s hospitalization. While the sister immediately deflected blame onto the OP for having the edibles present, the OP maintains that their primary fault lies in setting an absolute rule that was then intentionally violated by the sister for convenience.
The core debate centers on whether the responsibility for the child’s poisoning rests solely with the adult who willfully disregarded a clear prohibition (the sister), or if the homeowner (the OP) bears a secondary responsibility for keeping substances in their private residence, even without prior notice of a child’s visit. Is the absolute right to control one’s private property more critical than the perceived need to childproof against unexpected visitors?
Here’s how people reacted:
Yeah fucking no thank you, gross behaviour on their part. It wasn’t even an organised thing. They just rang you and said “we’re on our way” AND it was explicitly stated that they were off limits. Her own damn fault for feeding shit to her kid that was completely off limits.
>well my sister is stubborn so she will never admit blame and apologize, so to save the peace
HA get fucked parents. How about you raise your daughter to not take what doesn’t belong to her and to not be such a stubborn pos
Honestly, your entire house should now be off limits to the entire family, fuck that toxic bullshit i swear to god.
“Oh your sister is a stubborn bitch who stole weed brownies that you told her were off limits but now cause she’s mad we’re over here to try to trick you into admitting fault”
Can really tell who the favourite child is in this situation.
Also. 4 NORMAL brownies is too much for a 5 year old. They’re training that kid to be a heffer
I do not do weed (gov job) and will probably not ever personally and I still say you should pick the buds and space brownies over your family. XD Have space brownies ever invaded your space, stole your stuff, blamed you for it, or (apparently) assaulted you? I doubt it.
I’m not even going to say “you should have told her they were ‘wacky'” because that’s not necessary. You said no, these are off limits. They could have been off limits for a wide number of reasons including having other special ingredients like common allergens, being for a special occasion, or just been reserved for someone else, and most importantly, none of that is her business.
Also no wonder her immediate go-to for when her kid is cranky is to find him sweets if your parents first move is to tell you to apologize to make her stop being cranky. Time for a lot of children in the family to learn some overdue lessons about dealing with consequences and bad feelings. Enjoy some brownies behind a locked front door, OP.
no you are not TA and its her fault not yours. She should have asked you why they were off limits or if there was anything dangerous in them. If someone told me there were brownies in the fridge that were off limits, I would assume they were weed brownies, but it sounds like your sis is not that quick. Def NTA and you can def have brownies in your.house. Though maybe put them away next time kids/stupid people are around.
You don’t have kids, so you don’t need to “kid-proof” your house. (it is a “thing” let me tell you)
You also were VERY clear that no one is to eat the brownies. I presume your sister knows about your proclivities, so she absolutely knew what you meant by that.
Parents ATA because they expect you to keep a lock on your cabinets/refrigerator. I will bet my entire life savings that they don’t have their liquor cabinet locked up, and that your sister is smart enough to NOT mix up a Margarita or Pina Colada for her son. (even though they taste GREAT and kids would slurp them down no problem)
WTF. First of all the kid didn’t “find” them, your asshole sister deliberately went into your fridge and stole food that you told her was off limits, but even if her son had actually gone into your fridge and stolen them on his own, it would still be her fault for not supervising her kid. I don’t have or want kids and even I know that if you bring a kid to a home you know perfectly well is not child-proofed, you fucking keep an eye on them to make sure they don’t drink floor cleaner or something.
As for your parents, do they always take a “keep the peace at all cost” mindset or is your sister just the favorite child? Either way, you’re right to throw them out of the house.
Honestly, I wouldn’t let sister in the house until she apologized for the theft. Change the locks, and if she shows up unannounced leave her on the doorstep.
Good news, a kid didn’t find them. An extremely irresponsible parent stole them and then overfed her child them. (If he’d had one he might have been high but likely otherwise fine. He was given 4). It’s entirely on her. I get that during the incident she was distraught about her kid and lashed out irrationally at anyone she could, but if she still can’t accept this was her own fault then she’s brain damaged.
Good news, a kid didn’t find them. An extremely irresponsible parent stole them and then overfed her child them. (If he’d had one he might have been high but likely otherwise fine. He was given 4). It’s entirely on her. I get that during the incident she was distraught about her kid and lashed out irrationally at anyone she could, but if she still can’t accept this was her own fault then she’s brain damaged.
Nta obviously
Here’s the thing – the kid didn’t “find them” in your house. He was *given* them by his adult mother who explicitly ignored another adult, in that adult’s home, about which food was OK to share with a child. By their reasoning, you could be to blame for having antidepressants or adhd meds in your bathroom cabinet if Jasper’s parents are so dumb as to not heed your directions about not giving it to their kid. It sounds like your sister can’t be trusted in your home.
I warn anyone who asks about something that I have put cannabis into, and explicitly state why it should not be touched so that there is not thoughts of “oh, he is just being greedy”. It is honestly part of being a responsible cannabis user.
1. She’s not teaching her son to respect the no
2. She didn’t call in advance and ask if you had something for her kid to eat before coming over.
3. She’s not disciplining her child properly.
4. She’s not feeding her child in a healthy manner.
5. She’s bribing her kid to shut him up.
6. 4 brownies?!? WTF?!?
Your parents are awful too for taking your sister’s side
And tell mom and dad to fuck off if they are gonna enable a thief. I have kids. When someone says no to them getting something the answer is no and ill go buy them something if they are hungry.
Tell them all they cant come to your house anymore till they all apologize.
No. Absolutely not. Do not touch the knife.
Oh my God my son got stabbed by this knife I let him play with! This is your fault how could you have a knife in your house?!
This is the exact same thing. If your family insists on being a bunch of irrational nitwits feel free to tell them to take a hike. You don’t need that energy in your life.
NTA. There are SO MANY THINGS WRONG WITH THIS, and none of them were done by you. Glad Jasper is okay and glad you set the boundaries.
As a parent I never leave the house without snacks and if we need something that’s what stores are for. We don’t rock up to someone’s house unexpectedly and eat the ONE THING we were explicitly told not to eat.
I have grandkids and always have appropriate snacks on hand when I’m watching them (because my daughter is awesome).
Brownies? FOUR BROWNIES? That’s ridiculous. Give the kid a cheese stick or some carrots ffs.
NTA
btw my daughter and I both partake but keep it faaar away from the kids.
You are NTA.
https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/s/EiUVioUOUY
(I don’t usually do this so I hope it links correctly….)
You made it sound like they are OK brownies just not for your nephew. All you hat to do is to tell her that those are weed brownies and not just reserved for someone else.
NTA not a bit. People need to remember when they are not in their own homes and have respect.
For the record, I agree this was 100% on sister.
NTA
Honesty would have prevented this all from happening !