NTA at all

A long time ago we went to a friend’s birthday party. One of his friends brought his alcoholic father. We had brought 24 beers for the two of us and some to share. That alcoholic asshole drank 19 beers in 45 minutes and was going for another.

I slammed the lid of the cooler down and cut him off. His son was upset and said thought there would be enough beers for everyone (they did not bring any). I told him he needed to buy more but, his dad was cut off, he was cut off and our mutual friend was cut off. We also brought sausages and chips, enough for everyone.

He never bought more beer and the planned 8 hour bbq only lasted 2 hours, since there was nothing for them to drink.

People need to bring enough for themselves always. If they eat a lot, they should bring extra food. If they drink a lot, bring extra drinks.

Being polite is not magic. It just takes a little more effort than being an AH.

I was the fat kid. My mom started me on crazy diets when i was 9. Like 900-1000 calories a day. She was a starve and binge eater, so at family events, she ate like a champ. I learned to do it, too, because it was the only time i wasn’t being starved.

When i was in college, my friends shamed me for eating all the food at a party. That was when i started a journey to recover from all the dieting and binging. I’ve lost a hundred pounds over the years, and though my health has suffered from all of that abuse, I’m much better than the rest of my family.

While what you did was brutal, it was also a wake-up call. Not for them. They don’t want to see it and aren’t ready to face it. This is for the family to be reminded that they don’t have to enable it, and they sure as hell don’t have to go without because they aren’t willing to share.

NTA

NTA. I’m a fat woman, around 100kg, and im aware that at times my appetite can be larger than average due to a medical condition (not all the time and not to this extent, but it does happen). At those times, i bring my own extra food to these types of events because i feel so awful about even the possibility of me taking more than my share of the food the hosts provide. Your SIL and her family seem disgustingly entitled, i wouldn’t invite them to my barbecues either.

Her respons really says it all; they wanted a free meal as well. They didn’t go to see people, catch up, have fun. They came to eat and you are the food ATM.

Being together solely to eat is a type of party too, but then you pull your own weight (no pun intended) by either paying your part or bringing it.

NTA. Tell her they are welcome to bring their own food next time (and that you want your plates back)

NTA. Both the behavior and the sense of entitlement is absolutely disgusting. I get that they eat more than the average person, but they HAVE to know that at a gathering, piling up your plate to the point where other guests don’t get any food is rude as hell. They don’t get to cry “fat shaming” to justify their god awful etiquette. God I hate this moment we’re in.

Explain to them that there is a difference between fat shaming and greed shaming. They could eat a respectful amount with the family then go home and eat 6 more dinners on THEIR dime, no one would shame them. The fac that they choose to exploit the family and make others go hungry is what is unacceptable. NTA.

NTA. It’s incredibly rude to go to an event and eat so much food others go without. Or to take leftovers unless they are offered. Your decision to simply not invite them was the perfect way to deal with this issue. You’re not required to invite anyone to an event you organize and pay for.

NTA! So her first reaction was that she would have “liked a family meal” not that she was upset to be left out of the festivities?? She is entitled. People usually get enough for a first round and only get more food if they know everyone has gotten some, or at least, they should.

My cousin’s husband could empty the entire buffet table by himself if allowed. They would come to family gatherings with their six kids and be the first to fill their plates. Their contribution was usually a jello salad.

The family joke was to try to be ahead of them in line.

NTA. First of all? It’s your party. You have the right to invite or not invite anyone for any reason. Secondly, she and her family are beyond rude. Their greediness meant that other people went without food. You don’t do that when you’re a guest. Screw ’em. Enjoy your party!

NTA

I don’t even think this is about their weight, this is about their appetite, they could be stick thin and still eat too much.

The simple truth is they don’t seem to have manners, and its okay not invite someone that will eat you out of house and home.

I’m sorry but this time the truth hurts.

If they weren’t so greedy and wasn’t actually taking food out of people’s mouth that would be a different story.
The fact that they don’t even care and then go up for seconds and thirds.

NTA at all.

NTAH they sound selfish. I guarantee I could eat all the watermelon at any cookout and leave directly from there and eat all the watermelon at the next one. But I don’t cuz I’d look like a fucking asshole.

NTA
Even my obese aunt knows not to eat more than the appropriate allocation of food at a gathering because she has a shred of self-awareness.

NTA. That got me about all the leftovers being taken. That happened to me once, I never invited them again. Big time rude people.

Plot twist: OP invites them to the next gathering, OP only serves vegetables and fruit, no other food.

NTA. They are being rude by taking so much and not contributing and they’ve shown it to be a pattern.