In the midst of heartbreak, the father stands resolute, refusing to tolerate the betrayal that has invaded his home. His wife’s pleas for forgiveness only deepen the rift, as the wounds run too deep to simply forget. The family is now fractured, caught between love, loyalty, and the harsh consequences of broken promises.
My daughter-in-law is pregnant with my first grandchild. She is suffering from placenta preavia. She is on bedrest. It would be dangerous for her to have sex. So my asshole son decided that he should cheat.
She found out and kicked him out of the house. He came to stay with us because “she was having crazy pregnancy hormones”.
Every time he called her they would fight. After a couple of days we told him to go see if she calmed down. Her mom is staying with them so we weren’t worried about her. My wife called her to check in on her and found out the truth.
I very upset. When he got home from work I told him he needed to get out of my house. He wasn’t someone I wanted to associate with at the moment and it would be best if he wasn’t near me.
My wife tried to say that I was being too hard on him. That I should just give them a chance to work things out. I can’t even look at him. I don’t want such a stupid boy in my house.
My wife and I are still fighting about it but I am willing to die on this hill.
Conclusion
The original poster (OP) is facing a severe conflict between their deep moral disapproval of their son’s infidelity and their spouse’s desire to offer support and a chance for reconciliation. The OP’s strong emotional reaction has led them to take decisive action by evicting their son, creating significant marital strain.
Given the absolute breach of trust during a vulnerable medical situation, is the OP justified in prioritizing their immediate moral boundary and refusing to host their son, or should they defer to their spouse’s plea to allow the couple time to attempt repair under their roof?
Here’s how people reacted:
1. Cheated on his wife who cannot medically have sex
2. Lied about the situation to put the blame on the wife
Because if she hasn’t…it sounds like your son is her golden boy who can do no wrong in her eyes and it’s always someone else’s fault.
Good luck with waking her up from that.
I’m glad that you can see your son clearly. I’m not telling you to cut him off. But your wife and son need to acknowledge the voluntary wrongdoing (both the cheating and the lying), how serious it is and how morally corrupt the actions were.
NTA
Your son isn’t just stupid, he’s cruel.
There’s also nothing that should be fixed as long as he dismisses her reasonable upset at his infidelity as *”crazy pregnancy hormones”.
And to do so while his wife, the person he claims to love, is dealing with what is potentially life threatening complication.
Hence, your son is cruel. And that by far is the worse offense than just stupidity.
NTA… I’m just trying to understand your wife’s stance on y’all’s son. Unless he’s her golden child and not subject to any type of censure.
I agree with you that this is a hill to die on.
Your daughter-in-law is family and the mother of your grandchild. She needs your support now, not the man that cheated on her and blew up his own marriage.
You may have inadvertently made things worse for your daughter-in-law. If your son can’t stay with you, he may demand to be allowed to move back into his own home, which would be stressful and miserable for her. You might reconsider this stance just for her sake, not his.
(I’d be more succinct with what I thought of him but I don’t want to get banned)
And maybe ask your wife “Are you effin serious? Would you be saying the same thing if I cheated on you?”
I had placenta previa. No sex for 28 weeks. I was diagnosed at 18w, delivered at 38w plus 8w pp recovery. My husband had zero issue with it because it was for the safety of his family.
>My wife tried to say that I was being too hard on him.
Ask her if she would feel the same way if you were the one cheating on her while she was pregnant.
Hope you can find additional ways to support your daughter in law, you’re a good one