As they approached climax, the narrator reached for his girlfriend’s hand. She unexpectedly grasped his hand and pulled it toward her in a movement resembling a friendly handshake, saying, “hell yeah brother.” This action immediately stopped the narrator’s arousal, causing his erection to subside, leaving him feeling as though he had just shared a casual, platonic gesture with a friend. The narrator is now seeking an outlet to discuss this confusing and deflating experience.
I 28m and my girlfriend 29f were in the middle of having sex. We were nearing climax when I went to grab her hand. She quickly clasped it pulled my arm toward her in the style of friendly hand shake.
She brought it in and said, “hell yeah brother”. I couldn’t anymore. My erection died and well I felt like I just gave one the of the boys a good ole’ bring it in pat on the back and go get beers handshake.
Had to tell somebody. Thanks reddit for listening to my misery
Conclusion
The narrator experienced a significant emotional disruption during an intimate moment due to an unexpected verbal and physical gesture from his partner, which shifted the context from sexual intimacy to a casual, platonic interaction. This resulted in immediate physical disappointment and a sense of feeling misunderstood or mismatched in the moment.
The central question is whether the girlfriend’s reaction was an innocent, albeit poorly timed, expression of excitement, or if it indicated a fundamental misalignment in how she perceives or expresses intimacy during sex compared to the narrator. Should the narrator prioritize discussing the specific phrase and gesture, or focus on the resulting loss of arousal?
Here’s how people reacted:
If you’re not comfortable enough with your partner to be able to laugh or cry during sex you shouldn’t be with them. Intimate encounters aren’t always perfect like in the movies. FFS.
I was on board to be on your side but after reading the whole thing I am 100% on her side. You’re a grown man & instead of talking to your intimate partner about something she said that YOU didn’t like during sex you’re posting about it on the internet FFS. I hope your gf finds a better lover & one that enjoys all of her quirky parts. I hope you find someone boring in bed that only says the same 3 phrases you hear over and over again in pornography… cause clearly that seems like what you want. Life’s to short to hate your sex life or your intimate partner
If my girl had ever did what your girl did I woulda replied with some wild shit in Macho Man Randy Savages voice and stone cold stunned that ass into the bed lol.
Don’t take life so seriously bro. I know its serious, but allow yourself moments of levity and just laugh. Hell the way shit is nowadays who fuckin knows how many opportunities we got left.
My wife and I have an amazing sex life but it’s rarely all serious.. keep that shit in the movies/novels. We laugh during sex a lot. Sex is a silly thing when you boil it down.
you should’ve hulk hogan’d her back brotherrrrrr, that would’ve been the correct choice
“Your girlfriend CALLED your Brother as in a phone call ….while having sex with her!”
Like Brotha? or Brother?
The details matter!