As they stand on the precipice of something more serious, the revelation of her views on dogs shatters the illusion of compatibility. It’s a poignant moment where affection meets cultural divide, forcing both to confront the fragile line between acceptance and difference in the pursuit of connection.
I live in Canada. In February I met a women from Egypt at a bar on a Friday. She doesn’t dress like the traditional Muslims or partake in prayer throughout the day. I was actually unaware she was Muslim until our 4th date.
I informed her the night I met her about my pug and I even showed her pictures her response was the typical “cute”.
Skip ahead until our 3rd date I bring her to my house for the first time, it’s late when we arrive. She didn’t interact with my pug or want my pug in the room which I agreed with as we were going to having sex.
She left for work early in the morning and shut the bedroom door when she left leaving my pug to lay outside my door while I slept in (My pug always sleeps with me and will sleep in until I get up normally).
So we go out again a couple days after for a fourth date. We began talking about getting serious and taking the next step, then she drops this bombshell on me that she thinks dogs silva is unclean,and dogs are generally seen as dirty animals that Muslim don’t own.
She told me she wants to be with me but my Pug would have to go. After making sure she was serious, I began to laugh, I got up walked out of the restaurant, drove myself home and went to bed with my Pug.
Conclusion
The original poster (OP) faced an ultimatum: maintain their relationship or keep their beloved pet pug, stemming from a conflict between their established life (including their dog) and the new partner’s religious and cultural views regarding dogs as unclean. The OP ultimately prioritized their long-standing emotional bond with their pet over the potential of the new romantic relationship by leaving the date immediately.
Was the OP justified in immediately ending the discussion and leaving when faced with the demand to give up their dog for the relationship, or should they have attempted further negotiation given the potential connection they felt?
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(There were other major egotistical issues, like lecturing on how Pappasito’s is “real, quality” Mexican food to me… an actual Mexican, and telling me my specialized IT job “sounded cute” while his pretty stereotypical warehouse work was so much better.)
He didn’t get a second date. He actually got deleted from my MySpace, Facebook, + I called AT&T to have them block his number and happily paid the $3 or whatever… because this was back in the Nokia RAZR/ROKR days.
You’re 4 dates in. This girl isn’t the one. Just be glad you haven’t wasted a bunch of time on her before she showed you who she was.
From the description, it seems like she’s going out of her way to not be a practicing Muslim.
Not dressed properly, alone, in a bar, with a non Muslim man and went back to his house for pre marital sex.
If anyone found out about any of this, well you know.
She knew you wouldn’t go for the no dogs when she said it.
Maybe this was her way of “just hit it and quit it”, but make it look like you were the problem.
She’s playing a dangerous game out there.
It’s better she’s in your rearview mirror.
NTA
Let her walk away before your dog “gets off his leash and now she can’t find him.” Never met a dog I didn’t like, but I can’t say the same for people
In her religion she shouldn’t even be dating or having sex.
A dog should be the least of her worries. She is just Muslim by name and a bad representative at that . I am sure she does not even wear hijab
As for using religion – doesn’t her religion forbid sex before marriage?
Block her and move on.
There are many pig loving ladies out there
When a potential partner gives you an ultimatum about your pet-they are testing you.
Test them back-pick your family.
i don’t like people that dogs don’t like
but that’s just me
But a pug…? Why would anyone own such a disfigured creature?