Confronted by harsh accusations and misunderstandings, she faced the storm of criticism not with anger, but with the quiet strength of someone who knows the complexity behind every choice. In a world quick to judge, she fought to be heard—not as a warrior, but as a voice seeking empathy and truth.
I am a 33-year-old vegetarian. I do not mind what my boyfriend eats, but he must cook meat separately because the smell repulses me after years of vegetarianism. Today, I saw an online post comparing meat-eaters to pedophiles.
I found this disgusting and told the poster that such extreme comparisons hurt the reputation of vegans and vegetarians. A woman immediately attacked me, calling me a murderer and claiming only vegans are pure.
I tried to explain that I source my milk ethically where calves are not removed and my eggs from chickens with ample space. This explanation was dismissed, and I was accused of supporting the suffering of baby animals, even when I pointed out the absence of a rooster meant no fertilization occurred.
Annoyed, I questioned her own ethical consistency, asking if she had checked if her shampoo, makeup, and nail polish were vegan. I argued that if she was going to attack others over their diet, she first needed to ensure her own lifestyle was perfect.
The woman stopped responding. Several hours later, her friend messaged me, claiming the vegan lady had a mental breakdown upon discovering her products were not vegan, throwing tantrums that the friend could not calm.
I told the friend that the situation was the vegan lady’s own fault. I stated that she chose to verbally attack people online with an inappropriate comparison and was called a murderer, so perhaps she deserved to be in the ‘murderer club’ for her own ignorance.
I added that maybe if she stopped judging others’ diets, her meltdowns wouldn’t happen. The friend called me heartless, a monster, an asshole, and said I would burn in hell, demanding an apology.
I do not believe it is my fault that the lady did not know many products contain animal byproducts, nor do I think I should apologize for sharpening her knowledge.
Conclusion
The original poster (OP) is facing backlash for confronting an aggressive vegan online who claimed meat-eaters were akin to pedophiles. The central conflict arises from the OP challenging the vegan’s purity claims by pointing out non-vegan components in her personal products, leading to the vegan experiencing a severe emotional reaction, for which the OP is now being blamed by the vegan’s friend.
Given the extreme reaction from the vegan and the subsequent accusation from the friend, the core question remains: Should the OP apologize for effectively exposing the vegan’s hypocrisy and lack of complete adherence to her own ethical standards, or was her direct response justified given the initial inflammatory nature of the argument?
Here’s how people reacted:
**Do not apologize!**
This is a perfect example of not being able to take what you dish out. It doesn’t sound like this woman has the emotional maturity to manage her own emotions. That is not your responsibility.
It’s a shame that her friends are enabling her bad behaviour and sadly I do not think she will self reflect and learn a single thing from this interaction.
NGL – I laughed incredibly hard when you said she had a breakdown. I have cousins who are vegans who are so incredibly respectful and if you can’t be respectful well… FAFO.
> – Daniel Sloss, _Jigsaw_
She found out that falling off of a high horse hurts. If she doesn’t read packaging to determine if the products she’s using are vegan friendly (usually printed prominently so it can be used as a marketing tool) then that’s on her.
Not your problem to fix. If she’s gonna stroke her own ego and shit on other people she should be doing her own research and know what she’s about.
Never apologize to a vegan. I have never met a single vegan that isn’t a raving bitch.
They’re assholes and deserve whatever they get.
You did not make her cry. Her poor choice of makeup did.
Definitely not the asshole!