What started as a minor accident spiraled into a deeper rift, revealing cracks not just in Jess’s story but in the foundation of their trust. When she suddenly expressed a wish to move, it was more than just a change of scenery—it was a plea for something beyond financial comfort, a desperate reach for freedom from the tangled web of their unraveling reality.
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If you haven’t been following, here’s the TL;DR of the situation: first, my wife Jess wanted to go to Aulani, the Disney Resort, for our upcoming vacation. This was after nine consecutive trips to Disney World.
I eventually agreed to this plan. Then, Jess had a minor car accident in our driveway. She felt she couldn’t make it to Hawaii, and therefore we made a compromise where we’d go to Disney World one more time.
So, long story short, last week Jess overplayed her hand. Even before that, I found her recounting of the car accident and the extent of her injuries suspicious. When she doesn’t know I’m watching, she moves normally, will pick things up off the floor, and generally seems perfectly healthy.
When she sees me nearby, she exaggerates every movement, holds her lower back, and limps.
Well, on Saturday, Jess approached me saying that she wanted to move. This made no sense. We had so little money throughout our 20s and early 30s, and now we’re financially well off solely because I finally have an amazing job in our area.
Jess said she understood this, but she argued that she wanted to live closer to her parents. She asked me to move to Orlando with her.
So, first off: her parents do not live in Orlando. They live in Atlanta, which is smack dab right in between where we currently live and Orlando. Jess cited there being more flight options, and then she tacked on that she may have a job opportunity in Orlando.
When I asked her to show me the job, she showed me a $16/hour sales associate position for a sector where she has absolutely zero knowledge and experience.
I’m not proud of this, but I snapped. I told her she just wanted to move closer to Disney World, that she was tearing our lives up so she could go take pictures with Disney princesses, and that she was a horrible wife.
Jess denied this, naturally, and she told me that she’s moving to Orlando with or without me because her parents need her.
After this, Jess went to her room and started listening to Disney music with the volume at max, singing along. I listened to her rendition of Let It Go more times than I can count (maybe “It” refers to me here).
The next morning, she told me that she was moving to Orlando with or without me, and said that if I want to be a “piece of shit husband,” I can just stay where I am.
I’m going to just be a piece of shit husband. I’ve tried. I’ve tried to deny the obvious because it would make Jess happy, but I can’t anymore. I just want to be alone.
I wasn’t responding to your comments, but they’ve helped me more than you can know. Thank you to everyone who posted.
Conclusion
The original poster (OP) is deeply frustrated and feels betrayed by his wife’s persistent focus on Disney-related activities, culminating in a demand to move across the country based on questionable pretenses regarding her parents and employment.
Given the wife’s demonstrated pattern of prioritizing Disney trips and presenting dubious reasons for a major life change, the central question becomes: Should the OP prioritize his financial stability and current life, or accommodate a partner whose core motivations appear rooted in persistent, potentially manipulative desires contradicting shared financial goals?
Here’s how people reacted:
I have friends who will ONLY vacation at Disney. Like every single vacation, multiple times a year, for their entire lives. It got so expensive and out of hand that the husband told the wife (she’s the truly addicted one), that she had to get a job just to pay for their Disney vacations because he was done. So she did. 100% of her income goes towards Disney vacations. They spend tens of thousands of dollars every year on Disney.
Disney is a certifiable addiction for some. Probably just as bad as alcohol or drugs (not exaggerating here). You can either choose a codependent part of it, or you can put your foot down and say that you will no longer contribute to it. Have some consequences in place if the behavior continues, and 100% stick to them.
I’m a bit petty. There’s a George Strait song called. “She let herself go” The song is about a woman whose husband leaves her for whatever reason and instead of going to a massive depressive state, she starts experiencing life. She goes to the beach that he always complains that was too far. She went on a singles, cruise and met wonderful people I dare you to play that song and blast it. Haha
Family does NOT mean “we only ever go to Disney or I fake a car accident to get my way”.
Take a trip to Hawaii stay anywhere besides the Aulani and have some downtime that doesn’t involve Disney. I’ve heard the macadamia nut pancakes at the Four Seasons are amazing, who wouldn’t want to stay in a Ritz, and the water slide and pools at the Grand Wailea are amazing. Treat yourself to a little Adult Trip and experience the magic of Not Disney.
I think she’s mentally ill. She’s feigning injury, fabricating job opportunities and willing to sacrifice her marriage in order to live in Orlando and fulfil her fantasy of living in a Disney paradise.
She needs serious help and needs to develop the ability to truly reflect on her position and what’s motivating her actions.
In case there’s any doubt at all: NTA.
No matter what you choose, you won’t have to wear ears and listen to “It’s a Small World” ad nauseum.
“My divorce was finalized six months ago and I recently got a promotion at work. I’ve been dating a woman who has a pilot’s license and enjoys wine tasting. Beth has never watched a Disney movie and never wants to. Our first vacation together is to Greece.” 😍 Good luck!
Your wife is into Disney fetish. It will be hard to get rid off. You either have to accept and live with that fetish (like S&M situation where you just obey) or you leave / divorce her.
I bet it feels good to finally get confirmation that she only cares about Disney. Now, you can heal from her, and maybe you will find a real adult to have a life with.
Don’t take her crap no more
Let her go, let her go
Turn away and file for divorce
Don’t listen to what she’s gonna say
Let her rage on
She was never really sane anyway
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